How do you show love for yourself? What does self-care look like to you?
Chances are, you try to eat right, exercise, care for your skin, hair, and teeth, try to sleep well, and engage in a number of other daily tasks to ensure that you feel healthy and cared for. You choose organic products, try to eat clean, stretch, meditate.
Maybe loving yourself involves speaking up, standing your ground, not allowing yourself to be disrespected or marginalized at work, among friends and family, or by strangers. Maybe it means saying no to requests in order to give yourself time to relax.
You devote time, energy, and money to take care of your health and well-being.
So, here's a question: what about your safety? How are you investing in staying safe when you're at home? What are you doing to ensure your safety when you're out and about? Are you prepared to stay safe during an emergency?
If you're like most women, your investment in your safety consists of a bike helmet, a flashlight, a smoke detector, a flashlight, and some pepper spray. In fact, the total amount you've spent on your safety is likely to be less than what you spend on a gym membership or haircare for a month.
You are worth so much more than that.
Look, taking care of your health is important. You should spend money on things that help you stay healthy and fit. And those other self-care expenses--nice sheets, candles, a meditation retreat--are perfectly valid as well.
But self-care involves more than making sure you're healthy. The most radical self-care act of all is making sure that you're safe.
Unfortunately, women tend to put ensuring their own safety at the bottom of their list of priorities. Isnt' that strange? I mean, we spend more time thinking about our hair than whether or not we are going to be safe in the event of an emergency.
Women--women of all ages and stages, women in all communities, women in general--tend to avoid preparing for an emergency. Women of color are the least likely to have what they need to stay safe.
Women are collaborative, caring, and proactive. Also: we're extraordinary planners. Who's rolling up their sleeves to plan every detail of that conference, school carnival, community concert, or march for peace? Women. Who's planning wardrobes, home remodels, gardens, and vacations? Usually, it's women.
And there's this: 40% of U.S. households are headed by women.
So, in this era of self-care, self-love, and self-compassion, why aren't we protecting ourselves by getting prepared?
The answer: we don't like how it makes us feel. We want to be positive about the future. Buying emergency supplies seems a little too pessimistic. Too paranoid. Too much like a survivalist.
Exactly. And that is why, at Compassionate Survivalist, we're reframing that whole concept of survivalism. You see, we all want to survive--but we're putting compassion first. We care about ourselves, AND we want to be prepared to help others.
Sure, we'll continue to do the things we do every day to work toward a bright, positive future for all. But we're proactive. We are pushing past the ickiness of thinking about a disaster and getting what we need for an emergency--even if it's just a power outage from a pole that got knocked down. It happens.
Things happen. And we need to value ourselves enough to stay safe.
Of course, you might never have any sort of emergency at all. It's totally possible. But just seeing your emergency kit right there in your closet is enough to give you peace of mind. It's something you can tick off your list of worries, and you can focus that extra energy in positive ways.
We've created an added incentive: a big percentage of the profits from the safe of our emergency kits goes to local groups providing relief services to vulnerable women and children in disaster-affected communities across the U.S.
The truth is, women are more likely to donate to help others than they are to ensure their own safety. We've made it easy to do both.
You can choose to be the one who is safe, prepared, and empowered to reach out.
Go beyond bath salts and bold statements. Give yourself the gift of radical self-care. Care deeply enough to get what you need to stay safe.
That's fierce love and fiery compassion--for yourself and others.
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Thank you so much for caring.
Love and safety,